Three bartenders, best friends, and podcast troublemakers take their very first live show to the stage, armed with charcuterie, cider, trauma bonding, and a strict “be nice or leave” policy. Come for the chaos, stay for the real talk on assholes, intuition, queer identity, and why joy is non‑negotiable.

Summary

This one’s a little different… because it’s LIVE.

Recorded in front of a room full of friends, strangers, and a whole lot of cider, this episode captures the raw, unedited energy of Ducking Realitea meets Touch of the Tism, and honestly, it’s a beautiful mess. From community shoutouts and sponsor love to wildly honest conversations about dating disasters, intuition, and emotional boundaries, the trio leans all the way into what they do best: real talk with humor that hits just right.

There’s no hiding behind edits here. You get nerves, laughter, tangents, and moments that land harder because they’re happening in real time. The episode dives into everything from being unapologetically yourself, to calling out bad behavior, to the importance of kindness (with a firm “be nice or leave” energy).

And underneath all the jokes and chaos? A deeper throughline: community matters. Whether it’s supporting local businesses, showing up for each other, or donating proceeds to Meals on Wheels, this episode is about building something bigger than just a podcast.

It’s messy, it’s honest, it’s a little unhinged, and it’s exactly the point.

Guest Bio

Siobhan
Bartender, podcast host, and creator of spaces where people can be real. Known for her quick wit and big laugh, she brings a mix of sharp observation, warmth, and just the right amount of cheeky chaos to every conversation.

Danielle
A seasoned bartender and natural storyteller with a gift for cutting through the noise. Whether she’s offering razor-sharp social commentary or pulling from her lived experiences, Danielle brings honesty, depth, and perspective that hit home.

Holly
Bartender, humorist, and heart of the crew. With her blend of comedic timing, candid honesty, and a knack for finding joy in the heavy stuff, Holly keeps the conversation grounded while making sure nobody leaves without laughing.

💡 Key Takeaways

  • Kindness with Boundaries: You can choose kindness and still protect yourself, your bar, and your community from toxic behavior. “Be nice or leave” is a practice, not a slogan.

  • Intuition in Relationships: When something feels off, it probably is. Listen to your gut, ask hard questions, and give yourself permission to block, walk away, and not be the “cool girl” about betrayal.

  • Friendship as Survival Gear: Slumber parties, road trips, live shows, and charcuterie, adult friendship, especially among service‑industry folks, is real emotional infrastructure.

  • Labels vs. Lived Experience: Queer identity, politics, and fandom don’t have to be rigid boxes. You’re allowed to change, learn, and refuse to let one label define your whole self.

  • Community & Giving Back: Local bars, live events, and podcasts can be engines for mutual aid—from donations to Meals on Wheels to quietly keeping dangerous people out of shared spaces.


“Honestly, the only thing that should be black and white is a panda.”

~ Holly

❤️ Organizations & Causes

🍻 Businesses, Partners & Local Spots

🎶 Community, Vendors & Creatives

🎉 Events & Culture

🎙️ Media & Influences

🛍️ Misc Mentions

Resources and Mentions

“If you can’t change it, you have to let it go. What happened, happened—it’s already done.”

~ Danielle

Live, Loud & Slightly Unhinged Episode 7

“That’s the thing in life, shit happens. And if that’s all you’re looking for, that’s all you’re gonna find..”

~ Siobhan

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